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Taking A Step Back From Pressure And A Step Forward To Yourself

Taking A Step Back From Pressure And A Step Forward To Yourself

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Society hampers us with loads of pressure on what we should be and should have accomplished at a certain age. We glorify a culture of nonstop grinding, thinking that there’s no other way to reach our goals. However, we still wonder why so many of us feel unfulfilled and burnt out despite pursuing our dreams. We do so much to please others without leaving anything for ourselves. But at the end of the day, is all the grind still worth it?

In the tenth episode of Returning Home, Elise shares a personal story on resentment, burnout, and quitting. She sheds light on the constant pressure the world imposes on us to do more and give more. Without setting boundaries in this pursuit, feelings of resentment thrive. Finally, Elise highlights that prioritizing yourself should always come first — and there’s no shame in that decision. 

If you want to know when to start taking a step back for yourself, then this episode is for you!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode:

  1. Learn where the mindset of wanting to do more comes from.
  2. Discover how you can free yourself from resentment and burnout.
  3. Understand the importance of recognizing your limitations and capabilities.

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Episode Highlights

[04:13] Taking Pressure Off Yourself

  • The world is constantly asking us for more of ourselves.
  • Start making yourself unavailable to things that no longer serve you.
  • Take a step back from all the things you’re “supposed to do.” and take a huge step toward self-care. 

[05:51] Open Yourself Up to More Love

  • Love doesn’t equate to being productive for X amount of hours per day.
  • Embodying more love means living your life and connecting with your feelings and relationships.
  • Focus on your fulfillment and contentment instead of your work performance.
  • Prioritizing productivity goes back to our education and family values. The mindset of “staying productive” antagonizes having free time.

[07:50] On Resentment

  • Resentment is an emotion opposite to joy, love, excitement, and contentment.
  • You can only start giving from your overflow when you fill yourself up with love and happiness.
  • Resentment comes from a place of scarcity, fear, and anger.

[08:59] Quitting and Freeing Yourself from Resentment

  • Elise left her last full-time job four years ago.
  • Since she felt overwhelming resistance entering into her work, she put in her notice three months before her term ended. 
  • She transitioned to being a therapist in an outpatient office, but it didn’t work out as she expected.
  • The experience took her on a winding path, doing interesting jobs, training, and hobbies.

Elise: “We need to see ourselves in this cycle of giving and receiving. Once we’ve given, it is time for us to receive, so that we can give and then receive and then give.”

  • Elise finally permitted herself to start her own therapy practice. It gave her more stability, control, and joy.

[11:36] The Need to Do More

  • The need to be doing more is always in Elise’s mind. She feels the same even as she started a private practice.
  • She feels like she has been working more than a 9 to 5 because of the other things she’s trying to build.
  • There’s this notion in the wellness coaching and therapy community of needing to teach others what you are knowledgeable of.
  • Tune in to the full episode to hear about the conversation that became Elise’s breaking point!

[15:47] How Resentment Builds Up

  • Elise’s nervous system is wired to fight and see the worst in people. Her predisposition is that she needs to protect herself.
  • She felt the need to keep pushing herself to feel valid and worthy.
  • Society is performative. It reinforces and encourages us to keep working until we’re exhausted.
  • Resentment built up over feeling rejected and not getting the reciprocation she wanted from her work.

[17:53] Choosing Healing

  • Elise decided to quit spending her spare time trying to do multiple things for her business and prioritized healing.
  • She realized she was meant to be a therapist, space holder, and mentor. 
  • Inviting people who were not aligned with her in her space did not feel right.

Elise: “The people who get it, get it, and the people who don’t, don’t.”

  • She’s not going to chase people who don’t appreciate or understand her work anymore.
  • She’s currently focusing on pouring into herself to get from a place of overflowing.

[20:14] Setting a Boundary for Yourself

  • Elise has been feeling tired a lot lately, and she realized she didn’t need to feel this way.
  • She took two weeks off to remove herself from that place but ended up stressing about working most of that time.
  • Set boundaries by categorizing work into different priority levels. 
  • The thought of shedding out all her liabilities made her feel immediately better. But it almost made her fall back into that routine.
  • The root cause of falling into the cycle of performing is outside influence and pressure to be productive.

[24:35] Recognize What’s Worth Doing

  • It’s important to recognize what’s worth doing. You get to decide and take responsibility for the quality of your life.
  • The online space has helped people see the limitless potential of having access to prospective customers. But we don’t need to be available to everyone all the time.
  • We all have limitations. It’s critical to recognize them to determine your capabilities and what you want in life.
  • Tune in to the full episode to hear Elise’s recipe analogy!

[28:00] Recognize Your Limitations and Capacity

  • Tune in to the full podcast to hear about @thenapministry’s post that resonated with Elise!

Elise: “You get to choose the quality of your life, and you don’t have to give, and give, and give until you’re there’s nothing left.”

  • You have to give for yourself first before giving to other people.
  • Get in touch with your limitations and capabilities. Then, you can reach your fullest potential.
  • You don’t have to do all the things outside pressure is telling you to do.

[30:15] Quitting and Finding Peace

  • Elise is quitting to pursue what truly fulfills her without chasing anything anymore.
  • Live your life with the intention of experiencing true peace.
  • Give yourself permission to prioritize yourself and your well-being.
  • You can only give to other people from your overflow when you prioritize your joy, contentment, and quality of life.

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Transcript

Elise Kindya: You get to choose the quality of your life and you don’t have to give and give and give until there’s nothing left. There has to be something left for you. And actually, it should first be for you, and then other people come after that.

Welcome to Returning Home, The Podcast. My name is Elise Kindya, and I am a trauma-informed and intuitive therapist. This podcast is a space that I have created for you to discover a deeper understanding and love for yourself, which leads to expanding what you think is possible in your own life.

My goal is for you to feel excited to live your life as your full, authentic self. By listening to these episodes, you will learn things like how your brain works, my favorite resources for healing, stories from my own life, practices that you can press “play” on to add to your healing toolkit, and so much more.

I invite you to return home to yourself in big and small ways to live the life you desire on your terms. You can live connected, empowered, and aligned. When you return home to yourself, anything is possible. I can’t wait to share all of my insights with you. Now let’s begin.

Hello, and welcome back to Returning Home, The Podcast. This is Elise Kindya and I am the host of this podcast. I’m excited to be back. We are on episode 10 and that feels pretty exciting.

I remember when I turned 10 and I was like, “I’m double digits!” I had piano lessons and I remember my teacher — we had a piano in our house — and my music teacher was at our house and I was sitting on the bench next to him and I’m like, “I’m double digits!” That just stuck out to me when I went to record this because now, my podcast is double digits in terms of episodes and I just thought that was funny.

So like I had said on my last podcast episode, I’m going to start reading some of your reviews because I think that’s pretty fun. I’m going to read this review from A.Z., and I think this is Alex. We used to work together so I was excited when you reached out to me, Alex, and said that you’ve been loving my podcast, and I was excited to see your review come through. I’m going to read that here.

Alex had said that she’s sharing this podcast with her therapist and with other friends and I so appreciate that. As you know, that’s how these kinds of projects grow: by word of mouth and by people liking the content, and then relating with it and sharing it with people when it really resonates, so thank you so much.

Alex says, “Elise approaches her work with thoughtfulness, research-based strategies, and compassion. This podcast is incredible for anyone who is trying to heal from trauma or support a loved one trying to heal. She offers concrete strategies and tools that are very helpful. This pod is truly a game-changer for me.”

Well, thank you so much for that. I really appreciate it and I’m glad that the content is resonating, and you’re finding it helpful. If you would like your review read on the air, go ahead and leave me a review.

That was on Apple Podcasts and that’s the only way I know how to see reviews. I don’t know if Spotify keeps track of that stuff, but if you do write a review on a platform other than Apple Podcasts, you can always screen shoot it and DM it to me on Instagram. Go ahead and follow me there right now. My handle is my name, @elisekindya. I would love to read more of these on the air as I do more episodes, so thank you so much for that.

With that being said, this episode is something that I’ve been writing about, thinking about, posting about, and just trying to spend a lot of time with this topic. It’s just really funny timing because it’s about quitting, it’s about stopping, it’s about making yourself unavailable to things that no longer serve you.

It’s about taking pressure off of yourself to do more in this world that’s constantly asking us for more of ourselves, right? I know for myself, I’m very unconventional and I don’t like following rules. I don’t like doing things that I’m “supposed to do”. I don’t like when somebody tells me what to do. I’m like, “Okay, well, then how do I do the opposite of that?” I really don’t like that.

I like being able to create my own flow and my own pace and do things the way I want to do them. Right now, where I am in my life, and in my work, I’m taking a huge step back from all of these structures, supposed tos and shoulds, and I’m taking a huge step toward myself and my self-care.

That even applies to this podcast. I’m getting off of a schedule with this. I’m just going to let inspiration come to me, flow with what feels right, and record episodes from there, instead of always having an episode coming out every two weeks. I am seeing this as an experiment.

Something I’ve been saying for months — even longer than that — is I really want to open myself up to more love. For me, love doesn’t equal being productive for X amount of hours per day, making as many social media posts and podcast episodes and blog posts and having all these millions of things to do. Developing this program, hosting and facilitating this event.

For me, embodying more love is going to mean living my life, hanging out with my friends, doing nice things for myself, getting closer with my partner, doing things that are solely based on how I feel, the people around me, and connecting, and not about, “How can I add more events and clients and projects to my work life?”

I’ve really been reflecting on this. I have been so focused on my work performance instead of how I really felt, instead of how fulfilled I actually felt, or how content I actually felt. I focused so much more on performance, income, what job I have, license, training — all of that stuff.

We get trained for this in kindergarten — preschool even — the values of our family and all of that kind of stuff. To have free time was like, “What the heck are you doing?” Now that I’ve created my life in a way that I can have a lot of free time, I am going to do that, I am going to spend my time feeling more free.

I’m going to talk a little bit in this podcast about resentment and how resentment is an emotion that I was really experiencing to a deep extent. What I want to do is feel more joy, more love, more excitement, satisfaction, contentment.

I don’t want to be in that place where I’m scraping at the bottom of the barrel. I want to know what it feels like to give from my overflow. I want to experience life where I am filling up so much with joy, love, excitement, satisfaction, contentment, happiness, that I have so much to give from this overflow.

I have a few examples that I want to share with you that illustrate for me how I had been living so much from this resentment and scarcity and fear and anger place, and how I now want to step into this other side. I’m sharing this because I think it’s really interesting. I like hearing stories like this, and I hope that it’s helpful to you as well.

When I think about quitting — as I’m recording this, it’s mid-February of 2022. Exactly four years ago, I left my last full-time job. I was working in a school, I put in my notice in November of the year before, and my last day was February 28.

I just talked with a client today and I would say, if you are someone that has to put in your notice, give your two weeks. Don’t give three months. The three months between November and February, this time four years ago, was the hardest time. I felt resistance trying to walk into this job towards them. I just was like, “I cannot do this anymore.” Don’t do it.

So this time, four years ago, I left my last full-time job. It was really scary. I left the job heading into something that I thought was going to work out. It ended up not working out, being a therapist in an outpatient office. I thought that was going to turn into full-time really fast and it didn’t. It was just like, “Oh my gosh. I just feel so burned out.”

It took me on this winding path and I met so many cool people. I worked some different, interesting jobs, I got some training. In some other areas, like Reiki — that was really fulfilling to me. I did delve more into some hobbies at that time, but at a certain point, it was like, “I really need to not be doing this anymore.”

But I remember being in that job four years ago, and just feeling so much resistance, feeling so much resentment, feeling like I gave so much and I wasn’t getting back what I was giving, right? We need to see ourselves in this cycle of giving and receiving: once we’ve given, it is time for us to receive so that we can give and then receive and then give. I just was feeling like I was giving, giving, giving and I was not receiving, and it was so disheartening and tiring. Man, I’m just so happy that time in my life is over.

Then I finally gave myself permission to start my own therapy practice and that helped me to find a lot more stability. I’m able to have more control in my life and I’m doing what I enjoy, what I’m trained to do, what I’m meant to be doing. I get to choose my clients, I get to choose how much I work throughout the week and that’s been really helpful, but I always have it in my mind that I need to be doing more.

Even when I was working that school job, I also was doing like a monthly group that I was doing with an agency. I was also doing these assessments for a foster care agency. I always have three jobs at a time so even from this place of, I was creating this life that I wanted in terms of my private practice, I still felt like I needed to have a membership, I needed to have a group, I needed to have bi-weekly, bi-monthly, evening events.

If you follow me on Instagram, you see I’ve been trying to develop these things for a really long time. It’s possible that I’ve even DMed you about these things or maybe we’ve had a meeting about them. I did this thing over the last summer where I was doing these market research calls, just grinding. Even if I have 15 clients a week, 10, 15 clients a week, I still feel like I’m working more than a nine-to-five, because then I’m also trying to build all these other things.

It just hasn’t taken off and I have been feeling for months now that I’m going to put that down. I was feeling very resentful about that. I’m in a place now, I have a little bit of space from it so I’m not feeling that way as much, but I was feeling really exhausted and burned out from that.

There is this sense, and if you’re in the wellness coaching, even therapy community, there’s this thought of, “Well, since I know how to do something, I should teach others how to do it.” For me, what that means is, because I’m always learning ways to heal and I’m always getting trainings and taking classes and reading books, and even in my own healing work in my personal life, “Oh, since I know how to do all this stuff, I should put together some type of a course or a membership or a group and invite people to come.”

I was doing that so much and it just felt like people weren’t signing up. People weren’t busting down my door. They’re not even liking my pictures on social media. It left me feeling really exhausted. I realized I don’t need to keep doing this.

I had a conversation with somebody. It was this one conversation, but it had sounded like a few conversations that I’ve had, even in the last six months or so. But this one that I had recently was like the straw that broke the camel’s back. I was just like, “I’m freaking done.” I had kind of a breaking point and I got to the point where I said I was done, but I’m going to tell this little story.

There was someone I was talking to; we were just talking about life and work and all this stuff and they were saying something that I posted on Instagram that they really liked. They thought it was really cool. I went to look because I was like, “I don’t think they liked this post on Instagram.” So I went and looked, and they hadn’t liked it, and it made me really angry.

I stewed over it for a few days. I felt my feelings. I watched a couple of horror movies to be like, “I need to see things.” I’m really mad, right? So I need to just see people being angry and acting it out. When that didn’t work, because that was Friday-Saturday — that Sunday, I went to the gym and was working out really hard. Towards the end of my workout, I do the StairMaster at the end of my workout, and the feeling was still there. I was still just gripped in this feeling so I was like, “Okay, let me ask, what is this feeling?” The first word that came up was resentment.

I know for me, my personal style when it comes to my nervous system: my nervous system is wired to fight. It is wired to see the worst in people; it is predisposed to think that I am being attacked and that I need to protect myself. So me trying so hard to make something happen in my business, and trying so hard to make these posts, and put myself out there, and be visible, and then make all these offerings, it felt like I kept trying so hard to make something happen that isn’t working and it’s keeping me in this really run-down place.

It’s keeping me in this place where I’m asking for attention and not getting it. I’m asking for validation and I’m not getting it. I felt like I kept having to push myself to feel like I was valid, like I was worthy, like I was working hard enough. I was realizing as I was completing this workout, and this word resentment was coming up, I was like, “All of this self-care stuff that I talk about doing, I live it to a certain extent, except when it comes to my work.” Maybe some other areas too.

I really push myself and I’m really hard on myself when it comes to my work and society is so performative. It just reinforces and encourages us to keep working until we’re exhausted. Like that saying, “Leave it all on the field.” I feel like I’ve just been kept in this trauma response.

A lot of my trauma is relational as well so to feel like I’m constantly being rejected, like — putting out the membership, people don’t sign up; putting out the group, people don’t sign up; putting out the events, people don’t sign up. I felt like it was just rejection, rejection, rejection.

I was feeling so much built-up resentment over all of this work that I was doing, and not getting any of that reciprocation that I wanted so I thought, “You know what, I’m quitting. I’m not going to spend every spare minute of my day trying to make these things happen in my business.” What I really want to do is do things — in all of that spare time — that are in service of my healing.

As a therapist, I really feel like I need to do that. I’m meant to be a therapist. I’m meant to be a space holder and a mentor. That is what I want to be. Trying to invite people into a space with me that isn’t that feels — it just doesn’t really feel right to me at this point.

There’s that thing going on on TikTok, and maybe I’m off on TikTok right now, and this isn’t a popular sound anymore, but there was this sound that was like, “The people who get it, get it and people who don’t, don’t,” and that’s just kind of where I was at.

I’m like, “If people understand the offerings that I’m putting out there, and want to be in the healing space with me, and want to work with me as that person holding space for them, then they get it. And the people that don’t want that don’t have to get it.” I’m not going to chase the people that don’t want it anymore.

That was the difference for me and realizing I don’t want to feel that resentment building up. I don’t want that in my experience anymore. I was asking myself, “What would I do with my time, if I wasn’t trying to prove myself as valid?” If my main focus is on myself and pouring into myself so that I’m actually able to give from a place of overflowing, what would that feel like? So that’s my experiment right now.

I’m experimenting with joy, with overflow, with love, with putting myself first on that list. I decided in 2022, my word of the year is “abundance” and I’m focusing first on giving it all back to myself. I’m excited to see what I am like when I am actually in this place of overflowing and seeing what I have to offer from that place because I don’t know that I’ve ever really been at 100% before.

Something I’ve noticed that I’m saying a lot recently, and over the last few months was, “I’m so tired.” I know that we are in winter and we do need to give ourselves a chance to chill and to relax, to recover, to replenish, but it was just with everything: “I’m so tired, I can’t do that.” Just doing the littlest things was taking so much of my energy and I realized I don’t have to feel this way. I’ve done some things over these last couple months to try to fill that back up and to not be in that place of “I’m so tired.” 

For example, over the holidays, I took off two full weeks from work. By work, I mean I took off two weeks from seeing clients. I didn’t see any clients in those two weeks, but most of the time, I was stressed about working.

I was thinking about what I needed to do. I was thinking about all the things that needed to be lined up and in place. I needed to delegate tasks, I needed to have pictures and videos and content, and post on social media, and invite people to my events, and my membership, and all this different stuff.

Then I would get feedback from people that they see my stuff and they like it, but that they don’t actually take the time to like it and it would be this burning anger inside of me. So I decided I can’t do that anymore. I don’t want to spend my time doing that.

I was saying I was so tired, and in the time that I even tried to give myself to not feel tired, I was still stressing myself out about work, right? There have been pieces over this time that I’ve been getting peeled back, falling away, so I set this boundary for myself. I said, “Okay, I’m going to just put all these things down that aren’t these certain things for work,” and I categorize them.

They have different levels of priority for me and anything that wasn’t the most important and the thing that pays my bills, I’m not doing it anymore. When I set that boundary for myself, when I told myself, “Okay, the only thing I’m going to focus on is X, Y, and Z,” and all this other stuff is just — I’m not doing it for 2022 or I’m going to give myself some kind of a time limit on some of these things.

I immediately felt better when I thought about putting down all that other stuff and it was funny, because then I was thinking, “Okay, well, this decision, it does kind of make me smaller and makes me work less hard, less hours, it makes me less visible,” but I still felt better when I made the decision. But then once I felt better, I almost convinced myself to fall back into this place of, “You know what? No, I can just do it. I can just push through, and I can just do all of these things. And I’m going to keep going because I feel better now,” and, “Okay, I have the energy again.”

I thought it was so funny because why would I go keep going down this road that was burning me out and making me tired and making me resentful instead of doing the thing that actually felt like I was experiencing some level of freedom and excitement and hope for the future?

When I think about it, it really is because of this outside influence, this pressure to perform, this pressure to do well, to be productive. If you know how to do something, you should just teach it, and then you can make money. That’s not a good enough reason for me anymore.

I don’t need to be making millions and millions of dollars. I think I just need to be happy with the life that I have, and continue to be happy with my life, and build from the inside out, and we’ll see what happens from there. But I was giving from this place of total burnout and lack and resentment and scarcity, and that is not what I want to do. 

It’s funny because we play these mind tricks on ourselves and we make ourselves think that we freed up some space, and then we fill it back with the same thing that was taking away our life force. It’s really important to be able to recognize what’s worth doing, right? It’s your life.

I talked about this in another podcast episode: you get to decide your life, the quality of your life, taking responsibility for what that means. I think there’s this thought in this space — especially online — the online space, the internet has really exponentially helped people see there’s this limitless potential out there.

There’s the internet and there’s 10 billion people on the planet, and there’s all these potential “customers”, right? So we think that all of us should have access to all people at all times and I think that we need to step away from that thought process. You don’t need to be available to all people all the time, and you don’t need to try to access all people all the time.

Even though we think we have this limitless potential — and maybe in the 5D, in the 12D world, maybe your soul has limitless potential — but then you chose to — well, depending on what you believe, but you’re here now, in this 3D body on planet Earth in the year 2022, or whenever you’re listening to this, so you don’t actually have limitless potential.

You have the body that you’re in right now in the circumstances where you were born. You have your ego, you have your name, you have your personality, where you were born, your family you were born into, the geographical location you’re in, the socio-economic status and the class that you were born into, the race, the gender slash whatever you want to call it, the identity that you have, right? You do have limitations. I have limitations. And it’s okay.

It’s a good thing to recognize what these limitations are because then you can see, given these parameters and these boundaries, what you are capable of in this life.

What do you want to do with your life? What don’t you want to do with your life, right? It’s like the analogy of a recipe. If I want to make filet mignon and potatoes and a side salad for dinner tonight, I can’t pull out the flour, and the cocoa powder, and the butter, and the eggs and try to — I can make a chocolate cake with that, but I can’t make filet mignon and potatoes. You have to take the ingredients that you have and make it work.

Grow where you’re planted, make the thing that you’re meant to make. You don’t have to be all these millions of things. You don’t have to pull yourself so thin and be spread so thin and getting pulled in every direction. You can choose the thing that you want to do with your life and do that and be happy about that and not be pressured to do so much. You really don’t owe other people all of that effort and all that labor.

I don’t know if it’s because so much of my thought process recently is about resting. I’ve been seeing so much of The Nap Ministry’s posts on Instagram. Definitely follow them if you don’t. I’m sure you already do, but there was a post this morning — and like I said, I’m recording this in like early-mid-February — where she was like, “What makes you think that I want to collaborate? What makes you think that I want to offer you more of my labor? What makes you think I want to fill up my calendar with all these requests? I don’t.” And I’m just like, “Yeah, me neither.” It was just really resonating.

You get to choose the quality of your life and you don’t have to give and give and give until there’s nothing left. There has to be something left for you and, actually, it should first be for you and then other people come after that.

I think that it’s really important to understand, like I said about the recipe analogy, what are your ingredients? What are the limitations? What is your actual capacity? Really get in touch with what that is right now and understand that it’s not bad to be limited. It’s actually in understanding what your capacity is and what your capabilities are, that you’re going to reach your fullest potential.

Once you recognize your limits, your boundaries, where you start and someone else begins, then you’re going to be able to reach your fullest potential. Just because you don’t have some kind of god complex or you’re Beyonce or something — I mean, maybe you are, and if you are Beyonce listening to this, hello, congratulations — but you don’t have to be on that level. If you want to be, that’s your business, but you don’t have to.

Social media and all of this outside pressure. I feel it makes us think that we have to do all these things. You don’t, and I don’t, and I’m not.

All of this to say that I’m quitting again. I have quit so many jobs, I can’t even tell you. I’m quitting again, but this time, it’s in order to pursue what truly lights me up and fulfills me. I’m not chasing anything anymore. I’m living from this place of living my life with the intention of experiencing true peace. I am excited to see what comes through for me in this experiment.

I want to know what true love, joy, excitement, contentment, satisfaction, happiness, overflow — I am so excited to experience that. So with that, I just want to say thank you so much for tuning into this episode. I really hope you got something out of it. I hope that my story helps to make you feel less alone. If you’re in this place of feeling really burnt out, tired, over it, I’m right there with you. I hope you felt that as I was telling you my story today.

I think it’s really important that you give yourself permission to prioritize yourself and your own well-being. You are a part of this world, you are meant to thrive just like everybody else is meant to thrive. The same way when you’re in the airport, on the airplane and they say, “Put your oxygen mask on first before helping people around you,” prioritize your joy and your contentment and the quality of your life first. Then you can give to other people from your overflow.

This isn’t to say, stark individualism and fuck everybody else. It’s to say, you matter, you freaking matter. There is nothing controversial about that. I’m sorry, if somebody wants to make that controversial, there’s a comment section I guess you could go to, but it’s not. You have to prioritize yourself. You are allowed to prioritize yourself. I’m giving you permission and I am doing it right now first.

This podcast is going to be a little bit quiet. I won’t be putting out new episodes for at least a month. Who knows what’s going to happen over this next time where I’ve taken some time off and put myself first and foremost. In the meantime, I’m going to be posting on social media less, but definitely go over there.

If this resonated for you, please come and start up a conversation with me in my DMs — although it might take me a while to get back. My name over there, again, is my name, @elisekindya. If this episode resonated for you, please leave me a review, and the next time that I record an episode, hopefully, I will read your review out loud on the air.

If this episode resonated, please feel free to share it with somebody in your life that you think needs to hear it. Take really good care of yourself. Thank you so much for tuning in and I will look forward to connecting with you next time.